Life is a journey not a destination!
How many of you have said, “My life will be perfect when I buy a new home, when I get this new job, when I scale this mountain, when I win the lottery” You get my drift. We have this image of what will make us happy but the truth is we have to be happy with ourselves and our lives everyday, because Life is a Journey not a Destination. It is the little things that happen in our day to day world that really is what life is all about.
When was the last time you sat down gave thanks and was actually grateful for all the small things in your life? Look at your day today, there must be something positive that you can say about the day. First off, you woke up this morning and you are alive, right. Okay that may be starting from the basics but the alternative is not to be here at all. I have so many reasons to be grateful and I do know how fortunate I am. I was not brought up with that frame of mind, as a matter of fact the opposite was true. But somewhere along the way I realized that it was up to me to be Happy.
Years ago I read the book “Happiness is a Choice” and it truly is. It all starts with you! You and only you are responsible for your own Happiness. We cannot look for someone else to make us Happy, it is something that we must find in ourselves. We also cannot blame anyone else for our own unhappiness, DARN it anyways. We all have days when we are swilling in our own pity party but thank god it is our choice to find our way out of it. “What I am responsible for my own crap”? It is the only way that you learn to move forward so that you can find that happiness. It is always much easier to blame others for our own unhappiness, but the people that truly are happy, (most of the time) realize that they are not perfect, people are not perfect and not every day is perfect, but they choose to try to find the positive in every day, even when they are getting their butts kicked.
I have a great plague on my wall above my desk it says, ” If you Love the Life you Live…You will Live a Life of Love“. It says it all! I truly treasure the moments in every day. I love to walk the Seawall and every time I do it, I get something new out of it. I find myself absolutely recharged and relaxed by the exercise, the ocean has a calming yet invigorating effect on me, feeling the ocean air and the breeze on my face refreshes and stimulates me physically and emotionally. Why on earth would I not want to do something that is such a benefit to my well being? It costs me nothing but time and the rewards are amazing. I am grateful for every time that I get to enjoy it, this is part of my journey.
My Children are grown and on their own, it took me quite awhile to get use to the fact that they don’t need me anymore. I was a single mom so it was quite a contrast! They used to consume all my time when I was not working and I loved every minute of it, but it was also exhausting. At first I missed seeing them every day and truthfully I wished we got to spend more time together, but they have their own lives, jobs and partners and I am so grateful for any time we do get to spend together. The reality is that now I have so much more time to do whatever it is that I want to do, including starting my own business last year. I now have the time to go hiking, biking, dancing, going to movies ( yes, even European movies with subtitles) or nothing at all, if that is what I want to do. 🙂 My point is that I have treasured every moment then and now, it is all part of my journey and I am so fortunate.
There are people that come into your lives and stay for along time and some that stay only momentarily, the point is that we need to treasure them and our time with them all. I believe that people touch our lives for a reason, even if we sometimes don’t really know why. Remember not every meeting with someone is about you! Sometimes it is not our lesson! INTERESTING! The first time I heard that I was a little overwhelmed, because suddenly so many things made sense. 🙂 I know you are saying but what about this crappy thing that happened, sit back and think about how strong it made you or how your life evolved. Hopefully you learned something and grew along the way. Yes I know I have been called Pollyanna before and I am Okay with that, it is part of my journey. 🙂
Try to savour all the special moments in each day and that does not mean only the incredible earth shattering moments but the little memorable ones. Remember how good it feels to hear a loved ones voice, how good you feel when they smile that smile that lights up your life, that sparkle in their eye is just for you. Every time your child looks up to you and hugs you and tells you that they love you, these are the moments on our journey that should be treasured. Yesterday, someone special told me that I really savour life and I realized he was so right. I love to enjoy and truly savour every minute, with all my senses. It does not take the world to make me happy, little random acts of kindness impress the hell out of me, maybe because I did not start out that way. I realize how fortunate I really am, I have a career that I love, wonderful children and so many dear friends that love me. I hope that you can take some time when you read this and count your blessings, you will be surprised at all the amazing things that you have to be grateful for if you just look at life with that point of view. How was your journey today? Maybe you need to slow down a bit and take a look around, you may be in the most amazing spot in your life, right this minute. 🙂 Never say never , don`t put off till tomorrow something you really want to do and keep your heart and life open to unexpected twists and turns on your travels. You have no idea when you may get a pleasant surprise, it could be today, tomorrow! Life is a Journey Not a Destination! Make yours memorable!