Why men love bitches!

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A little while back, I read the book Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov! My first thought was seriously, do men really love bitches? As I read each chapter, her theories started to make a lot of sense. I know what you’re thinking “is she drunk”? Not yet.  Sherry’s comparisons between the nice girl and the bitch confirmed who I had been, the dreaded good girl.

Her attraction principle # 1 “anything a person chases in life runs away”, made perfect sense to me. As a woman, I know we are most often attracted to the confident, secure man that never questions himself. Anyone we perceive as a doormat or needy bores the life out of us and can cause us to run 90 miles an hour in the opposite direction. So why would we think a man would be attracted to us if we did the same thing?

Attraction principle # 6 states “it is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt”. It is only logical that if we don’t respect or value ourselves why should they? We have heard it time and time again, so why aren’t we getting it? Repeat after me “we have to start by loving and respecting ourselves first if we want others to follow suit”.

Attraction principle # 16 “The bitch gives a man plenty of space so he doesn’t fear being trapped in a cage. Then …..he sets out to trap her in his”. In the wild an animal will chew his foot off to escape a trap, is it no surprise a man will almost do anything to break free if he feels he is being held captive. But if the object of his affection seems unattainable it brings out the hunter in him. Again perfect logic, so why would we do anything else? Once again, repeat after me, “Do not sit waiting for that phone to ring! Do not put your life on hold for him!” When he sees you have a life of your own and don’t need him, if he is interested, he will pursue you. If he doesn’t, do you really want him anyways? You want a man that wants to be with you!

Sherry has 100 attraction principles but I don’t think I need to list them all, you get the gist. Sherry Argov’s definition of a bitch is not being mean and nasty but making sure that you consider yourself first when looking at a potential partner and relationship. One more time, repeat after me, “Do not compromise yourself, your beliefs and your time. Men will not respect and appreciate you if you can’t lead by example and why should they? When you see they make you a priority then you can consider compromising a little in certain areas but only where it makes sense to.

I would definitely recommend this book to anyone that has ever been told or thought that they were too nice. Remember the old line “nice girls finish last” and I can honestly say “where’s the fun in that”? I’m not going to say that I’m a total bitch now but I am definitely not the nice girl either! Remember the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. So if the Nice girl is not working for you why not let the Bitch take over for awhile? If it doesn’t work she won’t care anyways!

http://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/25840.Sherry_Argov

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