2010 Put your best foot forward, with no expectations!

Happy New Years!!!!  Wow, it seems like yesterday when we were worrying about the Year 2000 and now it is 2010, how did that happen? How does the saying go? “Life is what happens when we are busy making plans.” That’s for damn sure!!!!! I remember being a teenager and waiting for a week to pass till the school dance, it seemed like it took forever and then it never quite seemed to measure up to the expectations that we put on it. Why is that? It seems the more expectations that we put on something the more disappointed we get. I have learned over the years not to put expectations on life and people and then I can be pleasantly surprised when wonderful things unfold.

Every year many of us make resolutions to change things in the New Year.  So how many of you have made resolutions to never spend another holiday season by yourself? How many of you have decided that this year is the year that you are going to meet (the One)? The truth is there are actually many (ones) for all of us, if we actually open our minds,  remove those pesky expectations and honestly look at what we really need in a relationship to make us happy.

As most of you know I am a professional Matchmaker and I am given a pretty huge shopping list when I am looking for potential partners for my clients. Mostly because I ask them for one, so don’t blame them, I need to know what characteristics they value in a partner.While we are going through the process of questions though I am always surprised by men who insist that the first priority that they are looking for in a woman is that she is beautiful, fit, thin and young (of course) even if they are not themselves.  🙂  Even if some of the wealthier older men  do end up with these women, they are always surprised when life with the younger beautiful women does not turn out to be all they really thought it would be. (Anyone see the latest movie, It’s Complicated with Alec Baldwin, Meryl Streep and Steve Martin?) I would recommend this movie to anyone over the age of 30,  Alec, Meryl and Steve are hysterical!!! This movie proves my point perfectly! Be careful what you ask for you just might get it. 🙂 http://itscomplicatedmovie.com/

Ladies  you don’t get off scott free either, not all the best men in the world look like Brad Pitt, George Clooney or have money like Tiger Williams. Have you seen the news lately? Good looks and money will not make you happy, at least not for a long time.  🙂 Besides who wants to date someone who is prettier than you and is constantly having women throw themselves at them. NO Thanks! I want to be attracted to my partner, but I want to know that he thinks that I am the most beautiful women in the world, even if I am not.   🙂 Isn’t that what we all want, we want to know that our partner respects, adores, appreciates and is proud of us. That goes for men and women. Sure money is always nice but it will not guarantee happiness! Just ask Tiger’s lovely suffering but now very rich wife. I would wager that she would rather have had a loving trustworthy, honest man to  help her raise her family and grow old with.

So Let’s make sure and make 2010 the best that we can. If you have decided that it is time to meet someone who you can share the rest of our life with, that is half the battle.  It’s like taking a trip, the first step is deciding that we want to go, the next is deciding how to get there and  the third is making sure that we are packed and ready to go. If you are ready to take that first step (looking for a partner) and are needing a little help, call me, I can help you widen your playing field. It is still up to you to make the relationship work.  Make sure that are ready willing and able to go forward when you find that special someone, put your best foot forward and try not to put any expectations on your potential partner and you may just be pleasantly surprised. I don’t know about you but I love surprises. 🙂

2010 is going to be a great year, as long as you look for the positives, you will always find them.

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