Helpful Holiday Tips for Singles!
Being single for the Holidays can strike fear in many people’s hearts, but no need to panic, help is here. As anything in life It’s all in how you look at it! Just think, you won’t have to worry about scrambling from one in-laws house to another to keep everyone happy. 🙂 You won’t have to spend forever in the stores trying to find that perfect gift for your loved one that they will just throw in the back of closet after Christmas. Ok, I jest, but I have come up with a few ideas to help you banish those Holiday blues and give you something to look forward to!
– YOUR ATTITUDE IS THE KEY. Don’t let the holidays get you down. Your life is full of possibilities and every day can be an adventure. Don’t give up hope and be sure to expand your options.
– Instead of passing on holiday parties and events because you don’t have a date, go by yourself with no expectations on meeting anyone specific but the more you socialize, you may have a pleasant surprise, Be OPEN, positive and don’t forget your welcome mat, your smile.
– Plan your own festive potluck meal, tree trimming party, sledding day or night or holiday event, get busy inviting as many people, especially singles, as you can, chances are they would love to join in.
– Try a different approach, think outside the box. Step outside your comfort zone and don’t be so rigid. “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result” the same goes for dates.
– Network just like you do for Business for your social life at events, talk to everyone including couples, they may have a friend or family member that is perfect for you. It never hurts to put it out there. “Yes I’m single, but open”.
– Enjoy Being in the moment, avoid unrealistic expectations from others, yourself and from the holidays themselves. This will defeat all the positive feelings and experiences you do have.
– Don’t overbook OR overstay with relatives or friends. Sometimes a shorter stay works best and allows you energy and space to get back to your own home and decompress.
– Volunteer at local shelters, nursing homes or non-profit groups. Feeling useful and appreciated will provide a great boost to your holiday spirits.
– Don’t plan to spend the entire holiday season with married family and friends. Seek out other singles activities or organize some, Van Dusen Festival of lights is always one of my favourites or Stanley Park’s lights.
– Avoid using food, alcohol or drugs to cope with holiday stress. Trust me this has never helped anyone and can lead to depression, low self-esteem and a greater sense of isolation and despair.
– Decorate your home with any and all things that make it feel more festive and fun for YOU. Even if no one else were to see it if it makes you feel good, do it!
– Don’t overdo it, do not make plans out of a sense of obligation. This is your holiday season you don’t have to answer to anyone, set your own limits, make good choices and enjoy.
– If you are spiritual or religious consider emphasizing those aspects of the holiday. Go to a concert featuring holiday music or attend a church service (invite another single friend or family member).
Whatever you do have fun, when it presents itself and creating it. Remember if you are thinking about and helping others less fortunate you won’t have time to worry about yourself and chances are you will realize how blessed you really are.
Let the Holidays begin!
If you are proactive and think outside the box consider using a matchmaker, there is a better chance you won’t be single next holiday season.
Link to article in the North Shore News: http://issuu.com/north-shore-news/docs/nsnwed20131218