Whatever happened to the gentlemen, the men that always opened the door without thinking for women and children. In our parents day, a man would never even think of letting a lady stand on the bus. Recently I jumped on the skytrain and was immediately dumbfounded by the men of all ages that were sitting in the seats, while there were lots of ladies standing, some elderly and some with children. Not one of them got up and gave up their seats, Instead these ladies struggled to hang on to the poles in the middle of the train, while these men buried their heads in their iphones, texting, or listening to their ipod. I was one of the ladies standing also or I would have given them my seat. It made me wonder what had happened to the gentlemen.
I polled a few men and they commented that they are not really sure whether they should attempt to be a gentleman, especially when taking a woman out on a first date. My opinion is that the majority of women appreciate a gentleman, so if you really want to stand out from the crowd go back to the days when women were feminine and men were gentlemen. I am not saying be a doormat, I am saying be thoughtful and protective, as well as being confident and strong. Nothing is more attractive to a woman than a man who does all those things and gives it without expectations. Men you know exactly what I mean here! 🙂
In one of my past posts we talked about intelligent successful women and the general consensus was that in order for these women to still be attractive to the opposite sex they had to make sure and try to keep their feminine ways. I realize that along the way some of our roles have changed and with that has come a lot of confusion. My suggestion to men is that is you wish women to lean to the feminine side, maybe you should go back to or continue being a gentleman.
I know myself, I have taken over where some men have fallen off. I have dated many men that don’t even think about opening the car door or any door for me that I have automatically gotten into the habit of doing it for myself. So much so that when I have come across a true gentleman they have actually had to remind me to let them do it for them. So I apologize to all those wonderful gentlemen your effort did not go unnoticed. I have always loved it when a man is a gentleman in public, although he does not always have to be in private. 🙂 On the other side men may like us to be a lady in public but they also like it when we know when not to be. 🙂 How does the saying go “men want an intelligent woman to work with or talk to, Mother Theresa to raise their children, one of the guys to watch or play sports with, and a whore in the bedroom” or something like that. I digress. 🙂
Men, just in case you forgot some of the things that a true gentlemen is known for they:
– open the door for women and children
– walk on the curb side when walking down the street, offer their arm or hand
– let the lady go first and then pull out her chair for her to sit
– call ahead of time for a date
– call when you say you will
– take charge of reservations
– pick up the lady at her place and drive
– be respectful
– pick up the tab when they invite a lady out (the lady can recipricate with a home cooked meal or pick up the tab on their invite
– offer to go get the car when it is raining, at least offer an umbrella
– always drive her home safely
I am sure that I have forgotten many things . I would welcome your feedback ladies and gentlemen, especially if you think I forgot something that you think is really important.
It is a beautiful day gentlemen why not try opening the door for a lady today and see if you get a thank you and a smile, maybe more. Ladies make sure and allow the men the opportunity. Then drop me a note and share your stories please. Have a fabulous day.